There comes a point in everyone's life especially at the start of a new year, when they realise that the current path they are on is unfulfilling , devoid of success and not to mention, dull and unexciting and they begin to crave some positive change. We all know that the perfect life simply doesn't exist but creating a life you love although it wont be easy, is absolutely possible and achievable.
It's at times such as these, that you need to give ourselves the permission to dream again and to dream big, lofty dreams for yourself and the life you wish to live. To really start exploring possibilities, being open to new ideas and ways of being and living and get to the heart of what will set your soul on fire so that you can begin creating the life you truly desire.
Just ask yourself and be honest with your answer, When the alarm goes off in the morning, do you curse its existence? Is there any part of your day where you don't feel unhappy or incomplete? If your response was a resounding yes, to any of these questions, then it's time to create some positive changes.
In most cases, you might think a complete overhaul is what you need. But you don't always have to make drastic changes, sometimes all you need to feel fulfilled is to make a few tweaks in the right area to achieve major life changes.
Happy, successful and fulfilling life's doesn't happen by accidents, we have to take the time to create one on purpose.
Here are 5 steps to help you:
1~ Determine What You'd Like to Change.
The most important question you can ask yourself is, "What do I want to change?" If you don't know your current values and goals, how can you ever expect to come up with a life worth living?
* Instead of just changing one thing, it's essential to determine why you want the change in the first place. You might want to strengthen your relationships or change your career path. Whatever the case may be, it's essential to know your goal before working on your strategy.
2~ Be Honest With Yourself
As we grow up, and grow more into who we truly are at our core, our goals change the things we desire change. That's expected and progressive. One thing that shouldn't change, however, is your integrity.
* Never settle for a "good enough" life if you truly want something better. If you own a business and are unhappy with the way it runs, take the steps necessary to fix it rather than just working around the problems.
* It's easy to overlook your values and morals when you're stuck in a rut or dealing with circumstances beyond your control. But remember, there's a difference between compromising and settling.
3 ~Assume a Flow State
In the same vein as honesty, it's also vital that you are open to change. Sometimes things happen that will throw a wrench in your plans. Sometimes circumstances beyond your control can make it challenging to achieve your goal. But nothing lasts forever.
* You can achieve most goals and dreams if you keep trying despite the setbacks. You'll inevitably face roadblocks. But you can still reach your ultimate destination if you're willing to go with the flow and never give up.
4 ~ Leave the Past Behind You
Sometimes the most challenging thing about creating a better life is letting go of the old one. You might have difficulty leaving behind friends, partners, extended families or a career you have outgrown. But if those things are holding you back from what you want, you will have to make a decision however hard that might be to leave them behind.
* You can't change the past. The only way to create a better future is to accept what has happened and move forward with your head held high. Far too often, people spend time reliving the past, trying to repair an irreparable situation. It’s important to avoid doing that. Release, loose and let go.
* Focus on what you can change - the present - and keep moving forward.
5 ~ Make Happiness Your North Star
The North Star- Polaris- is known for holding nearly still while the entire northern sky moves around it, which is why for centuries sailors has regarded them as a way to stay on course.
Likewise happiness is the key to a purpose led and fulfilling life. By holding happiness as a fixed guide regardless of where you are in life or the changes in circumstances around you is the most important goal you can set for yourself.
* Life may not be all clear skies or rainbows. But if you strive for happiness every step of your life, you will find that every storm has a silver lining.
One important key to a successful life is living by your values. But too often, people get stuck in a rut or face circumstances beyond their control, and they compromise their values for the sake of fitting in, be a people pleaser and settling for a life of mediocrity that is way below their capabilities. If you want to learn more about values read here
W| By womenwhoslay @womenwhoslay