How to Stop Doubting Yourself and Start Owning Your Power

Self-doubt is one of the biggest dream-killers out there. It whispers lies in your ear, makes you question your worth, and convinces you that you’re not ready, even when you are.

But the truth is, Queen: you were never meant to live small. The same energy you use to doubt yourself can be redirected into building yourself up. It’s time to stop letting fear sit in the driver’s seat and start taking back control of your power.

Step 1: Catch Your Doubt in the Act

The first step to overcoming self-doubt is awareness. Most of us don’t even realise how often we undermine ourselves. Listen to your internal dialogue, how do you speak to yourself when you make a mistake? If it sounds like:

"I’m not good enough.”

“Someone else could do this better.”

“I don’t think I’m ready.”

Then it’s time to shift that script.

Replace self-criticism with self-compassion. Start saying:

“I’m still learning, and that’s okay.”

“I’ve done hard things before, I can do this too.”

“I may not know everything, but I know enough to start.”

Every time you challenge that inner voice, you reclaim a little more of your power.

 Step 2: Stop Waiting for Perfect

Self-doubt thrives on perfectionism. You tell yourself you’ll start when you’re ready, when you’ve learned more, or when everything aligns. Spoiler alert: that day never comes.

The most confident women aren’t fearless, they just act before they feel ready. They know that clarity comes from doing, not overthinking.

Start messy. Speak up in that meeting. Launch that idea. Apply for that job. You’ll learn more by trying than by standing still.

Step 3: Remember Who You Are

“I am not behind. I am not less than. I am becoming the woman I was always meant to be."

You’ve overcome things you once thought would break you. You’ve handled pain, pressure, and setbacks and still found a way to rise.

Confidence doesn’t come from what you do, it comes from remembering who you already are.

Here’s a grounding affirmation for when you feel small:

“I am not behind. I am not less than. I am becoming the woman I was always meant to be.

Repeat it daily. Speak it until you feel it.

Step 4: Take Up Space (Unapologetically)

Self-doubt tells you to shrink; confidence tells you to expand. Don’t mute yourself to make others comfortable. Speak your truth, share your story, and step into rooms like you belong there, because you do.

Whether it’s posting your work online, standing up for yourself, or simply holding your head high, every time you take up space, you signal to the world (and to yourself) that you’re done hiding.

Step 5: Keep Promises to Yourself

Real confidence isn’t built through big wins, it’s built through follow-through. Every time you do what you say you’ll do, your brain learns:

“I can trust myself.”

Start small:

✦ Keep that morning routine.

✦ Set boundaries and stick to them.

✦ Speak kindly to yourself even when it’s hard.

Those small, daily wins compound into unshakable self-trust and that’s what confidence is made of.

You already have everything you need to shine, the world’s just waiting for you to believe it too. The moment you stop questioning your worth is the moment everything starts shifting in your favour.

So today, I want you to ask yourself:

"What would my life look like if I stopped doubting myself and started owning my power?"

Your next level begins when you decide you’re worthy of it.

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By|womenwhoslay

@womenwhoslay