The Truth About Love Bombing: Recognising the Signs and Reclaiming Your Power

At first, it feels magical. He’s obsessed with you. He’s texting nonstop, buying gifts, planning getaways, and calling you “soulmate” after just two dates. It feels like a rom-com fantasy. But hold on a second.

When love feels too good to be true too fast — it often is. What you might be experiencing is love bombing — and trust me, it’s not love. It’s manipulation dressed up in roses and romantic dinners.

What is Love Bombing?

Love bombing is when someone overwhelms you with grand gestures, intense affection, and constant contact early in a relationship… with the intention of gaining control. It’s not about you. It’s about power.

Once they’ve gained your trust and devotion, the manipulation begins. This usually manifests through guilt, gaslighting, jealousy, or emotional withdrawal.

How to Recognise Love Bombing: 7 Red Flags

1. It’s Moving at Lightning Speed

“I love you” comes before you even really know each other. This rapid progression can be alarming.

2. You Feel Overwhelmed, Not Excited

It’s intense — and not in a good way. You should feel joy, not pressure.

3. They Constantly Need Your Attention

You’re punished (through silence or guilt trips) if you don’t respond fast enough. This is a huge red flag.

4. They Put You on a Pedestal

You’re the “most perfect” person they’ve ever met — until you're not. This kind of idealisation can quickly turn sour.

5. They Try to Isolate You

Friends and family become “threats” to your connection. This is a tactic to gain more control over you.

6. They Don’t Respect Boundaries

When you say slow down, they speed up. This disregard for your feelings is a clear sign of manipulation.

7. You Feel Anxious, Not Safe

Real love brings peace. Love bombing brings confusion. If you’re feeling anxious, something is off.

You Deserve Real, Respectful Love

The kind that’s calm, consistent, and patient. It should be rooted in mutual growth — not obsession, control, or drama.

Never forget: being chosen fast isn’t the same as being loved well. You don’t need fireworks to know it’s real. You need emotional safety, clarity, and respect.

If it feels overwhelming, confusing, or manipulative — it’s not love. It’s control in disguise. You’re not crazy. You’re waking up.

Reclaiming Your Power After Toxic Love

So, what can you do if you find yourself in a situation like this? First, acknowledge your feelings. It’s okay to feel confused or scared. You’re not alone in this journey.

Set Boundaries

Establish what you are comfortable with. Make it clear to your partner what your limits are. If they respect you, they will honour your boundaries.

Seek Support

Talk to friends or family about your experiences. Sometimes, an outside perspective can help you see things more clearly.

Focus on Self-Care

Engage in activities that make you feel good. Whether it’s reading, exercising, or spending time with loved ones, prioritise your well-being.

Educate Yourself

Understanding the signs of love bombing can empower you. Knowledge is your best defence against manipulation.

Trust Your Instincts

If something feels off, trust that feeling. Your intuition is a powerful tool.

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