The 5 Stages of Falling in Love with Yourself
- Women Who Slay
- Oct 28
- 2 min read
Updated: Oct 29
We’re so often taught that love comes from outside of us, from relationships, from validation, from someone choosing us. But the most important love story you’ll ever live is the one you have with yourself.
Self-love isn’t an overnight transformation. It’s a journey, one that unfolds in stages. One that asks you to unlearn, rewrite, and rise again.
Here are the five stages of falling in love with yourself and how to embrace every single one.
Stage 1 - Awakening
“I deserve more than this version of life I’ve been accepting.”
This is the moment you realise that how you speak to yourself, treat yourself, and allow others to treat you… matters.
You become aware of the ways you’ve abandoned or doubted yourself and you choose differently.
✦ Workbook Prompt:
Where have I been ignoring my own needs? What is one loving action I can take for myself this week?
Stage 2 - Shedding
“I’m letting go of what no longer serves me.”
You detox your mind, heart, and life. Old beliefs. Old wounds. Old patterns that kept you stuck.
This stage requires softness and honesty, because releasing what’s familiar is hard, even when it hurts you.
✦ Workbook Prompt:
What is one belief about myself that I need to let go of? Who or what drains my energy that I must lovingly distance from?
Stage 3 - Rebuilding
“I’m redefining who I am and who I’m becoming.”
You start replacing self-criticism with compassion. You redefine your standards. You build new habits, boundaries, and rituals that nourish you. You realise you can create a life that feels good to live.
✦Workbook Prompt:
What habits reflect the woman I am becoming? How can I speak to myself with more love this week?
Stage 4 - Embodying
“I express my love through action.”
You keep your promises to yourself. You show up for yourself. You choose yourself, not just in private moments, but publicly and unapologetically.
You protect your peace like it’s your superpower. Because it is.
✦ Workbook Prompt:
Where can I set a boundary that supports my peace? What daily ritual helps me feel safe, grounded, and powerful?
Stage 5 - Radiating
“My love for myself changes everything around me.”
This is where your inner glow becomes visible. Where joy feels accessible again. Where you realise the love you give yourself spills into every relationship, opportunity, and room you enter.
You become magnetic, not because you’re perfect, but because you’re whole.
✦Workbook Prompt:
What makes me feel most like my highest self? How can I celebrate the woman I am today?
Falling in love with yourself isn’t linear, it’s a lifelong romance. Some days you’ll feel like you’ve mastered it. Some days you’ll start again. Both count. Both are love. What matters is that you keep choosing yourself, even on the days when it’s hard.
Because you are worth the effort. You are worth the love. You are worth EVERYTHING.
Continue Your Self-Love Journey
If this post touched your heart, imagine diving deeper into the full guide…
Love Starts Here: The Self-Love eBook digital bundle for Women Who Are Ready to Heal & Rise
Begin the self-love journey you deserve available here:
By|womenwhoslay
$50
Product Title
Product Details goes here with the simple product description and more information can be seen by clicking the see more button. Product Details goes here with the simple product description and more information can be seen by clicking the see more button
$50
Product Title
Product Details goes here with the simple product description and more information can be seen by clicking the see more button. Product Details goes here with the simple product description and more information can be seen by clicking the see more button.
$50
Product Title
Product Details goes here with the simple product description and more information can be seen by clicking the see more button. Product Details goes here with the simple product description and more information can be seen by clicking the see more button.
Comments