Why the Talking Stage Is the New Relationship Test

The talking stage isn’t just a pre-relationship phase - it’s the real test.

Let’s be honest, Queen, modern dating has its own language now. “Soft launching,” “situationships,” “bare minimum energy,” and, of course, the talking stage. That in-between space where you’re not quite a couple, but you’re also not just friends. The phase that’s equal parts exciting and confusing, where every text feels like a clue and every silence feels like a sign.

The talking stage isn’t just a pre-relationship warm-up - it’s the real test.

It’s where you see who they are when the effort isn’t performative. It’s where words start to meet action. It’s where potential either becomes purpose… or fades out quietly.

Let’s talk about why this stage matters more than ever, and how to navigate it like the Queen you are.

1. The Talking Stage Reveals Intentions Early

You can learn more about someone in three weeks of genuine communication than in three months of surface-level dating. How they text. How they listen. How they handle delays, disagreements, or misunderstandings, these aren’t small things. They’re previews of emotional maturity.

The talking stage is your chance to observe, not over-invest. Listen for consistency, not just chemistry. Notice how they make you feel, not just what they say.

Because someone who truly wants to know you will show you, without you needing to chase clarity.

2. It’s Not About Labels - It’s About Energy

We’re living in a time where everyone’s scared of “catching feelings” but addicted to attention. So instead of obsessing over “What are we?”, focus on “How do they treat me?”

Are they communicating clearly, or breadcrumbing you when it’s convenient? Are they curious about your life, or just keeping you entertained until something better comes along?

The talking stage is where energy doesn’t lie. When someone’s serious, you’ll feel safe, not confused.

3. The Talking Stage Tests Emotional Availability

 You’ll know if someone is emotionally ready by how they handle conversations that require vulnerability.

This is where emotional honesty shows up - or doesn’t. You’ll know if someone is emotionally ready by how they handle conversations that require vulnerability.

Do they open up, or do they deflect? Do they ask about your past with curiosity or judgment? Do they communicate boundaries, or leave you guessing?

This stage filters out people who want connection but aren’t ready for accountability. And that’s not rejection, that’s protection.

4. The Talking Stage Shows You What You Tolerate

Every woman has a moment where she realises: I’m not doing that again. The talking stage helps you spot your patterns, the red flags you ignored before, the standards you used to lower, the excuses you used to make.

You start asking better questions. You stop romanticising potential. You stop confusing attention for affection. You learn to walk away faster - not colder, just wiser.

5. It’s the Perfect Time to Practise Emotional Balance

The talking stage is about curiosity, not commitment. It’s your reminder that you can be open-hearted and grounded.

You can enjoy getting to know someone without making them your next emotional home. You can flirt without losing your focus. You can be hopeful without being delusional.

Protect your peace while staying open to possibilities. That’s the balance of a healed woman.

The Talking Stage Is the Truth Stage

It’s not the waiting room before a real relationship, it is the relationship test. It’s where you learn:

✦ Who’s consistent when the chase fades.

✦ Who’s genuine beyond the charm.

✦ Who matches your energy without games.

The talking stage will always reveal what titles can’t. So slow down, observe, and let people show you who they are.

You don’t need to rush into love, you just need to recognise when it’s real.

By|womenwhoslay

@womenwhoslay