You Are the Prize: Stop Chasing & Start Attracting

Let’s get one thing clear, Queen - you are the prize and you always have been. But somewhere along the way, the world made you forget that. You were taught to chase, validation, attention, approval, relationships, opportunities. You were told that your worth is something you have to earn instead of something you embody.

You don’t chase what’s already yours. You align with it, you attract it. This is your reminder to stop running after things and start becoming the energy that draws them in.

1. Remember Who You Are

When you see yourself as the prize, your energy shifts. You stop begging for attention because you are the attention. You stop fighting for a seat at the table, because you realise you can build your own.

This isn’t arrogance. It’s alignment. Confidence doesn’t mean you think you’re better than anyone, it means you finally remember your value.

Reflection Prompt (from The Confidence to Be You):

What would change if I stopped doubting myself and started acting like the woman I know I am?

 2. Stop Chasing Energy That Doesn’t Choose You

Every time you chase what’s not meant for you, people, jobs, validation, you send a message to the universe that you don’t trust your own worth.

Stop chasing the unavailable. Stop trying to prove your value. Stop begging to be seen.

When something is aligned, you won’t have to run after it, it will recognise you.

Affirmation:

“If it requires me to shrink, chase, or prove, it’s not aligned with my worth.”

3. Start Attracting by Becoming

You don’t chase your future self, you step into her.

Attraction is energy, not effort. When you embody the woman you want to be, you naturally magnetise everything that matches that vibration.

That means:

✦ Speak like her.

✦ Move like her.

✦ Dress like her.

✦ Think like her.

You don’t chase your future self, you step into her.

Reflection Prompt:

What would the most confident version of me do differently today?

 4. Protect Your Energy Like It’s Currency

You can’t attract abundance from a place of exhaustion and depletion. Protecting your peace is the highest form of self-respect.

That means saying no to:

✦ People who drain you

✦ Spaces that dull your sparkle

✦ Energy that keeps you stuck

Your vibe introduces you before you speak, so guard it fiercely.

Reflection Prompt:

Who or what is draining my energy and how can I set a loving boundary today?

 5. Shift from Desperation to Detachment

Chasing is rooted in fear. Attracting is rooted in faith.

When you’re desperate, you’re saying “I need this to feel whole.” When you’re detached, you’re saying, “I trust that what’s mine can’t miss me.”

When you stop gripping so tightly, things start flowing naturally. The right people, opportunities, and blessings find you when you’re at peace.

Mantra:

“I no longer chase, I attract. What belongs to me flows effortlessly into my life.”

 6. Be So Focused on Becoming Her That You Forget to Compete

Comparison is a thief of joy and a destroyer of self-worth. You can’t attract your best life while measuring yourself against someone else’s.

Stay in your lane, water your garden and glow at your own pace. Because when you realise that you’re the prize, you stop playing small to fit in and start standing tall to shine.

 Reflection Prompt:

Where in my life have I been dimming my light and how can I show up fully this week?

You don’t have to chase love, success, or validation when you know who you are. You simply embody your worth and watch what’s meant for you meet you halfway. The moment you stop begging for crumbs, the universe hands you the feast.

So fix your crown, Queen. Straighten your posture. And remember, you are the prize. Always have been and always will be.

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By|womenwhoslay